Jeremy and I decided that we were going to have a very small wedding and set the date for June 5th at the local courthouse. We were talking about doing this without telling anyone - just having witnesses there and telling everyone after the fact. But then I thought that we should at least have our families there. So, we set the date and told everyone yesterday. Big mistake.
My mother is not happy that we aren't getting married in the Catholic church. She talked to us last night and told us that she wants us to go talk to Father Joe and see what he thinks. Ok, let me back up a little here... Our plan was to get married at the local courthouse and then renew our vows in the Catholic church next year. Here is my reasoning: For one thing, my annulment went through, but isn't finalized enough to get married in the Catholic church yet. Another reason is we are not prepared for a Catholic wedding. We just want to get married. We don't want to spend a ton of money at this time and we don't want to wait until next year. When you get married in the Catholic church you have to be counselled by the priest for six months prior to getting married. We don't want all of that right now.
Why does this have to be so complicated? We had it planned so easily and we were SO happy yesterday and now ... I just don't know. I was awake all night thinking about this. My mother asked me this morning if Jeremy and I were upset about what she said and I couldn't even bring myself to tell her the truth. I just spent a good ten minutes crying after she went back upstairs. I don't know what to do.



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Tell her the truth. You're an adult, and you're totally capable of deciding how and when you want to get married. She may not like it, but she'll get over it. Us mothers are like that! *g*
(hugs) I love you. Everything will work out, no matter what you do.
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